I was nervous to have my first threesome on TV but now I let my boyfriend sleep around & we’re closer than ever

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DAISY was a serial monogamist until she agreed to have a threesome with boyfriend Mart – and now she claims they’re closer than ever.

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The couple, who have been together a year and claim to have an “amazing” sex life, decided to “spice things up” by introducing another woman in the bedroom – and share their experience in a new Channel 4 show.

Young couple Mart and Daisy wanted to try a threesome

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Young couple Mart and Daisy wanted to try a threesomeCredit: Channel 4
Daisy wanted to try something new after monogamous relationships

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Daisy wanted to try something new after monogamous relationshipsCredit: Supplied

My First Threesome – which aired last night – follows five people on their quest to make their fantasy come true, including a receptionist who chooses a members only sex club for her first time and a podcast host who turns to her pals to try to make a trio.

Having sex with more than one person is the most common sexual fantasy in the UK – with 95 per cent of men and 87 per cent of women listing it top of their erotic wishlist.

Having enjoyed their first three-way encounter, Daisy now lets Mart sleep with other girls and is exploring her bisexuality.

The East London couple, both 24, met on a dating app and are very much in love.

They agreed they wanted to bed another woman together, and set up online profiles to find their perfect match.

“We began talking about our experiences of casual sex on our first date, and we both knew we didn’t want to be in a monogamous relationship,” Daisy tells The Sun.

“Neither of us have been in open relationships before and neither of us have had a threesome with a partner as well, so we wanted to try it.”

Mart, who has had two threesomes before but never within a couple, says experimenting sexually has strengthened their relationship.

“Sex is an intimate thing so the fact that I’m able to share those experiences with my partner brings us closer together,” he says.

Threesome discussion on first date

Mart says sex with Daisy is great, which is “part of the reason we have stuck together”.

He adds: “It may be amazing now, but in the long-term I feel, if we keep having the same kind of sex just with each other, for me, in the past, it hasn’t worked.”

Although Mart has tried threesomes before, Daisy describes herself as a “serial monogamist” who has only had sex with a partner.

“I would describe my sexuality as bisexual,” she says. “I’ve been into girls from a young age but I was reluctant to have sexual relations with another girl because I was anxious.

If we keep having the same kind of sex just with each other, for me, in the past, it hasn’t worked

Mart, 24

“I think a threesome would be the ideal way to have my first sexual experience with a girl, because there’s a sense of familiarity with Mart being there.”

Although they discussed having an open relationship from the start, the couple didn’t hook up with anyone outside of the relationship before they hit on the idea of a threesome.

“I wasn’t really looking for anything serious when I met Daisy,” says Mart.

“But things sort of fitted together well and we talked about an open relationship quite extensively, over the course of weeks, and decided to give it a try.

“But in the first few months we chose not to act on it just because we were focusing on each other.

“I felt that if I was to go off and sleep with someone, it might bring a lot of insecurities very early on.”

Daisy wanted to explore her sexuality more - especially with other women

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Daisy wanted to explore her sexuality more – especially with other womenCredit: Supplied
Mart had been in threesomes before meeting Daisy and was keen to have an open relationship

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Mart had been in threesomes before meeting Daisy and was keen to have an open relationshipCredit: Supplied

Dating apps to find ‘unicorn’

To fulfil their threesome fantasy, the couple created a joint profile on two dating apps to find their “unicorn” – a term used for people who will have sex with a couple, so-called because they are considered rare.

They also discussed the attributes they want in the chosen woman, with Mart requesting “a pretty face, nice eyes and nice bum” and Daisy admitting she doesn’t like fake boobs.

The couple then worked their way through the willing respondents – with Daisy vetoing the most attractive.

“There are some girls on the dating apps who are really attractive but I don’t swipe right on them,” she told the show.

“I think a threesome would be the ideal way to have my first sexual experience with a girl

Daisy, 24

“I want to feel like it’s kind of even. I don’t want to find someone who is 10 out of 10.”

But Daisy insists the comment was not because she was worried Mart would prefer the newbie.

“I wanted someone that was at the same level as me but there was no jealousy involved,” she says.

“It’s just sex so it’s not like he’s going to have a relationship with her based on one sexual experience.”

The chosen girl, who is not shown in the programme, passed the test because she was attractive and a first-timer herself.

“She had just come out of a relationship and wanted to explore,” says Daisy. “I found that appealing because I was in the same situation before I met Mart.

“Also she was confident and we didn’t want someone that was super shy, in case that made the whole thing awkward.”

‘Hands everywhere’

Mart was only anxious that Daisy enjoyed her first threesome, and didn’t feel uncomfortable, promising that they could stop at any time.

But Daisy admitted to some pre-match nerves when it came to the liaison, which happened at Mart’s flat.

“I was definitely anxious beforehand like I would be meeting any new person, but it was obviously more intensified because I was going to have sex with them,” she says.

“But I never wanted to back out. Channel 4 were at the flat filming until half an hour before she arrived, and I’d come straight from work and was really stressed and on a tight schedule.

“I think I would have been more relaxed if we weren’t being filmed. It definitely affected the experience.”

The encounter took place behind closed doors but the couple described it to the cameras, with Daisy saying: “The sex was far from anything I’ve experienced before.

“We were quite relaxed and able to get into it pretty quickly. We started kissing and things escalated from there pretty easily and naturally.

“There were extra hands coming out of nowhere. It was pretty intense.”

The sex was far from anything I’ve experienced before

Daisy

Mart adds: “Two people pleasuring me at one time fulfilled some fantasies in my head. It definitely intensifies the sensation.”

They admit there were some awkward moments.

“It’s not like porn, where everyone switches seamlessly to the next scene,” Mart tells The Sun.

“But the first time having sex with any single person is bound to have awkward moments and you can apply the same logic to a threesome.”

Since the show was filmed, the pair have actively begun looking for other girls to share their bed, while Mart has started seeing other girls with Daisy’s blessing.

“We have a rule that we can only sleep with each person once,” says Daisy.

“I don’t feel jealous when Mart is seeing another girl. I might feel a little bit down but I wouldn’t say it’s jealousy.”

After her first same sex experience within the threesome, Daisy is now keen to explore her bisexuality further.

“I’ve been talking to other girls although I haven’t met anyone yet,” she says.

“I wanted to explore that before anyway, but the threesome was the kickstarter I needed.”

The couple discuss whether to 'swipe right' on girls

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The couple discuss whether to ‘swipe right’ on girlsCredit: Channel 4
The pair are exhausted after a night of passion with their 'unicorn'

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The pair are exhausted after a night of passion with their ‘unicorn’Credit: Channel 4

‘Mum doesn’t know about show’

Daisy, who says she had a sexual awakening when she bought her first vibrator at 17, said her dad thought her taking part in the documentary was “hilarious” while her mum was “cool” and said she’d watch and record it.

Mart is equally open with his pals about his sexual exploits – but confesses not every family member knows about the programme.

“When I told my dad, he acted like he didn’t hear and then said ‘I’m not watching that’. And I haven’t told my mum yet!” he admits.

Rise in open relationships

The decision to take part in the documentary was prompted by the couple’s desire to educate others about open relationships – and they weren’t paid for the show.

“A lot of people don’t really understand what an open relationship is and think it’s a free for all, where you both sleep with anyone, anytime,” Daisy says.

“But you can make your own rules for your relationship, just as monogamous couples make rules for their relationship.”

But Daisy believes the world is becoming more accepting of threesomes, and sexual freedoms in general – especially after Will and Jada Smith recently opened up about their open arrangement.

A lot of people don’t understand what an open relationship is and think it’s a free for all… but you can make your own rules

Daisy

Although the couple had a positive experience, one expert on the show warns fulfilling the threesome fantasy can have dire consequences.

“For the wrong relationship, threesomes can be an absolute disaster,” says Psychotherapist Nick Blackburn.

“They really can be the death of a relationship.

“One of the challenges is we see a lot of porn. There’s really an assumption that we ought to be going for it but the reality is that, as with most aspects of life, threesomes are a lot more complicated than people think.”

Catch up on My First Threesome on Channel 4 OD.

Daisy is now talking to other girls

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Daisy is now talking to other girlsCredit: Supplied
The couple enjoyed their first three-way sex

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The couple enjoyed their first three-way sexCredit: Supplied

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